Question:
Note: The Initials used to represent these people aren't even in their names. I just picked letters. I am 21 (female), "T" is 23, "R" is 29 (both male).

I've been dating a guy (Call him "T") for a year. A few months ago we both confessed we were getting bored with just seeing each other but wanted to stay together because we still care about and for one another, so we discussed open relationships, with the understanding that we didn't have to divulge any details if we didn't want to.

Over the summer I reconnected with an old friend (call him "R") who travels around the country for work. Literally almost year-round; I was so shocked when I saw him that I nearly jumped in his arms. After a few group outtings with mutual friends, "R" asked me out on a date. I explained the situation with "T" and he agreed that we would take it slow, partially for "T" and partially because he didn't want to be in a relationship while travelling is still part of his job (which I understand).

Here's the problem: I initially reconnected with "R" in the presence of "T", and he thinks "R" is a great guy. "R" invited me to spend a few days with him out of state last month and we had a lot of fun together. Yesterday he invited me out again, but I don't know how to bring it up to "T". He's sort of .... jealous.
Whenever I ask "T" to hang out and he says he has plans, I say "okay talk to you later." When I say I have plans, he asks a bunch of questions. I answer those that I want to, but not the ones I don't feel he needs to know (how long we'll be gone, for example) and he gets really upset with me. Also, lately, he's been "appearing" in the same places I'm going to be and tries to make friends with the people I'm out with -- guys or girls. He has two excuses for this: one is that it's a coincidence because he's out with a bunch of his friends. The other is that the guy (always a guy with this excuse) sounded subpar and he wanted to make sure I wasn't "dating the wrong dude."

I really want to go see "R" again but I don't know how to bring it up to "T" without going through another inquisition or having him follow me.

Any ideas?

Answer:
I think maybe you should rethink your arrangement. He obviously isn't comfortable with it. If he was he wouldnt be acting so jealous. So talk to him. Tell him either he's ok with it it or he's not. But you don't need these mixed signals. Maybe you should rethink being with Mr. T. It sounds like you're more into Mr. R anyway.

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Question:
20/f

My boyfriend (who is also 20) and I have been together for quite awhile,
and at the rate it's going, I can see us being together forever. But our
sex life sucks. It's really boring. He's not exactly a...passionate lover.
Always the same positions, and most of the time (like...95% of the time)
he cums in less than 3 minutes. (Basically, the only time he doesn't is if
he isn't sober.) I know the way to help that is by having him cum once
before, but if he cums once he doesn't want to go again.

As we get older, is our sex life going to get better? or since we're only
sleeping with each other, and not getting experience from other people,
will it always be the same? (It's not like either of us are inexperienced,
we both lost our virginity fairly young, and both of us have had sex
with our fair share or people. So I'm not really sure if that's what makes
the difference or not, even though all of the people we've slept with have
been fairly young as well.) And also, as we get older is it likely that
he'll start lasting longer?

Sorry that this is so long and jumbled, I wasn't really sure how to write
this out.

Thank you!

Answer:
In order for him to last longer he needs to work on his mind while having sex. He also needs to slow down in movement and no fast pumping. This will help him last longer. It's hard for men to do this so you'll probably have to help him through it. If he starts to go fast, let him go a little bit and then have him slow down. Maybe even pull out and then you guys can make out for a bit. It's all about control.
As far as you saying your sex life is boring. It takes 2 to tango. So if you wanna spice it up start with new positions. From behind, on top, side, 69. Then maybe doing it in different rooms. Or how about surprising him in the kitchen. Something different than the norm. Maybe if you spice it up, he'll want to go at it again.
Good luck!

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Question:
Age 19 Female

So this guy who used to live across the hall from me (he has taken a semester off) asked me to go to the schools dance (its kinda like prom). We had been flirting the whole first semester. But there were circumstances that we couldn't get together. So he comes down on Friday comes to hang out with kisses me. Saturday we go to the dance go out to a party he spends the night we don't have sex cause I don't have sex with guys I'm not dating. So Sunday morning we get up mess around a bit and my friend calls me to get brunch. I agree its 11 at this point I ask if he wants to join he says no he'll stay and sleep. Fine I leave tell him I'll see him when I get back. I come back he's gone, it was as if he was never there. I don't see or hear from him the rest of the day. He came back that night to pick up his suit which he had left in his old room. Came to say good bye, gave me a awkward hug and left. He hasn't spoken to me since we used to talk all the time. I don't get it. Do I just wait for him to call or do I call him.

Answer:
I don't see why you can't call him. If you want to see him again give him a call. If he says he's busy then fine. He's busy. No big deal. But don't ever wait for a guy to call if you want to talk to him. Just don't go over board and call him all the time. This is where it scares them. One call is good to initiate another date. If he doesn't take the bait HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU.

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Question:
So Ive been with my guy for about 5 years... I like to initiate sex ever so often, but lately Ive found that the usual hot spots arent working and flirting can only take you so far. This isnt an everyday situation either...my guy is very ticklish(a huge turnoff for himself)...he doesnt like the feeling of things on his neck, and touching his knees are out of the question. I need help trying to initiate sex, and he has not many hot spots... I need ideas and badly. Ive tried flirting, some roleplay, kissing... I'd like to try and seduce him before I even touch him... lately he has just been bored with it and Im stumped. He seems to think I should "know" what to do, but honestly...Ive tried everything, everywhere I could think of and still no success. He wants me to initiate, but initiation is getting kind of routine... I need some help!

Answer:
Well I think the best thing to do would be to ask him since he's so picky when it comes to his body. But I've posted this question hoping my readers can give you some great ideas.

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Question:

A31/SF

Dear Snipster,

I am an avid reader of your blog… I know some people think the submissions are a little over the top and possibly fake…. Well I have a question I would really like advice on (I think my emotions cloud my judgment) but the situation is a little over the top… so bear with me here as I am really looking for advice because what I am about to ask has a real person behind the question and this situation is real to me… I need good advice. I think you’re the gal for it or some of your readers could give me the answer I maybe don’t want to hear but need to.

Here it goes… I caught my husband looking at porn awhile back and while I don’t mind him looking occasionally, hell we have tons of magazines in the bathroom and videos in our armoire to keep him plenty occupied. Plus, I don’t like it ruling his life. I told him how I felt about it and how it made me feel… especially since we were not as sexually active and I was pregnant. He agreed to stop. I have also known him to lie in the past but he had seemed to stop one we actually started dating with the exception of the time when we were married that I found he had a secret email account. Nothing in it was suspicious though. Anyway, as far as I knew, I had all his passwords to all his accounts and access to anything any time I wanted it…. Well I never looked cause I trusted him… until the other day we got in a fight and he was being overly edgy… so I got into his email account… everything looked normal… but I got a wild hair to check his sent mail Nothing appeared suspicious… but I accidentally clicked on an email he had sent himself to his work email…. Bada bing…. A secret email account arose. Now, in his work email, there is nothing… but when I got to this NEW email account I see web links to porn sites, strange email addresses… ex girlfriend/fiancé name, number, and web address to her blog, responses to craiglist personal ads with no mention of having a wife, child, or asking for pictures….. Emails from woman about meeting up, moving etc…. but to top it of, naked pictures of me that I had absolutely NO knowledge of (I don’t and have never allowed it for the obvious reasons I don’t want them on the net). I was livid… was destined to leave him…. But he begged and pleaded for me to stay. He said he was a porn addict, that he was just on Craigslist to get naked pics of girls… he doesn’t supposedly doesn’t like the porn star fakeness and likes real unaltered woman (amateurs..) and that he started taking pictures of me because he knew what he was doing was wrong so he was trying to fix it by just looking at me. He said he viewed it mostly at work… of which he has strange hours there…. ANYWAY, I know that most of that is manipulated bull but he suggested a polygraph test to prove he never went outside the marriage. He also went straight to a counselor two days after it happened and is not going into a AA type organization for his alleged addiction. My question is…. Should I go along/make him take the polygraph test before I decide to leave? If he passes I am willing to work on the marriage to see if it can be salvaged but only because it appears he really does care about us. BUT…. Being as emotional about it all…. Is it just already obvious that I need to not feed into the bull…. Or am I making a huge deal out of nothing? The lying and unauthorized picture taking is what is heating me up the most.

Sincerely,

The Lie Detector

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Question: 20/M
Hey Snippie,
My particular situation is that I'm in my early 20s and still a virgin. Its not that I couldn't get a partner or were restricted to. I just grew up with the notion that one should save oneself for the person that they love. But I haven't found that person yet and I've never really dated, so finding a girlfriend isn't all to easy for me. I know its not all too bad still being a virgin because I'm still fairly young, but I know if I hold it off for too long it could be difficult to go through with when it happens and it would be awkward because I'm afraid I woudn't be good. So my question is, how can I prepare myself to be more ready for it and how should I go about it when I do have sex for the first time? Also how can I make the best of it when it does happen?

Answer:
I'm not sure you can "prepare" yourself. Just make sure it's the right person so your feel comfortable. I think when you love someone you're having sex with everything will fall into place the way it's suppose to. Don't worry about it. I know it's a scary thing, the first time, but you'll know what to do when it comes time.

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