April 21, 2009

Comments (77)

  • Why are you still with her?

  • Ouch. I don’t even know what more to add. Good advice for a baaaaddd situation.

  • Nah, just leave her to deal with the mess she made. She has a lifetime of other things to worry about besides how it feels to be cheated on. 

  • Yeah, just get rid of her and move on. She obviously isn’t really in a relationship with you.

  • Don’t do it… you’ll only be using someone else who doesn’t deserve to be the catalyst of a proven point. Let her go – she made her mistakes and she’ll pay for them for at least the next 18 years, if she chooses to keep her baby… if not forever, knowing of a child that she made and / or then gave up. Let it go.

  • @Passionflwr86 - Hey hey now! Obviously the cheating was a mistake, and I’m willing to bet on the fact that she wasn’t trying to get pregnant, but having a baby isn’t a 18 year long prison sentence. God help that child, though…

  • @Xo_SunShower_Xo - You’re absolutely correct, children are gifts and not prison sentences. I am willing to bet that this was a gift she was not planning on, though – and no one can say that it doesn’t call for a perhaps long adjustment period.

  • I’m with Snippie!

  • Let me help elaborate, Snippie: Having sex with another person, in spite of your girlfriend, only works in Family Guy. If she cheats on you, there is a chance she’ll want to do it against, because you allowed it. There is a little thing called breaks or breaking up, if you decide you are going to start cheating on somebody. Or holding it in! You fantasize about celebrities, without having sex with them. Why not do the same thing with that dude across the street? Dang! And you wonder why we get annoyed when some women (keyword: some) start raging on men for being cheaters.

  • snippie is right.

  • lol, I love how short and to the point the answer is

  • WTF?

  • 1. Dump the chick
    2. If you see her in public, discuss LOUDLY about how people that cheat are useless scumbags
    3. Also talk loudly about protection and how you ALWAYS use it
    4.???
    5. Profit!

  • My first thought was what Snippie said – why is she still your girlfriend? 

  • Move on.

  • Karma is beautiful, it will always get the bitch in the end.

  • this is a….strange question. are you actually asking us if you should “cheat back” or just what you should do? obviously cheating on her (even to teach her a lesson, haha) is going to damage you as well. and not to mention the poor girl you pick for your retribution. the whole “she did it to me first” argument really only works in first grade when someone steals your crayons.

    however, i guess i can understand this reaction. being cheated on is betrayal of the worst kind and is extremely painful to deal with. i think you should ask yourself why she did that (ie, were there other problems in the relationship that probably meant you should have broken up already or is she just a heartless bitch?), take the lesson from it, dump her (obviously), and move on to find a healthier, happier situation to be in (which probably will include being single for awhile and then dating someone who’s not a jerk).

    this situation sucks. sorry about that.

    good luck!
    :)

  • Are you 100% sure it IS the other guys? Were you two together at the time that she slept with this other guy? (Like maybe broken up for a short time)? what were the circumstances as to why she slept with this other guy? Do you think you can leave her for GOOD if you make that dicision? Do you just want to hurt her but still love her? and most importantly…is there room for forgiveness and can you help raise another guys child if it is another guys? If all of the above are all the WRONG answers for you…then leave her and let her be…She’s pregnant now and it isn’t the baby’s fault. So don’t make it an unhealthy atmosphere for it. Do what you have to do in a way that you represent yourself as…hopefully in an Adult and mature way…Remember, You can not take back words…they are like daggers and they leave scars…very big ones. There is absolutly NO reason nor excuse for cheating…but YOU have to weigh out all your options.

  • Wow what a question…personally, i don’t understand why people stay when they’ve been cheated on. I wouldn’t put up with that!

  • Okay, no one is in this man’s situation to know his feelings, quit giving simplistic and using emotional judgments. He could have forgiven her to some extent and actually does love her. People fuck up, that’s what we all do, some have major fuck ups and some of us don’t.

    My advice is this: If you do really love her. Go see a counselor with her. You need professional help in this situation. Fucking her over intentionally is flat out wrong.

  • Snippie, I respect you, but I have issues with how you answer certain questions.  It’s not that I disagree, but such a terrible situation from a guy who is probably super distraught probably merits a more in-depth look.  Just my opinion, though.  Cheers.

  • @nimbusthedragon - 

    I have to agree with you.

  • She cheated on you and got pregnant by him? You don’t have a girl, he does! Move on. And never look back!

  • No one deserves to be treated that way. Never, ever put up with shit. Find another girl, dude!

  • Dude…. one of my past girlfriends decided it was easier to give another guy a hand-job than to tell me she didn’t love me anymore.

    My biggest regret in that relationship is I didn’t drop her ass right then and there.

    You have every right to bail on this girl immediately…. and all she’s gonna do is drag you down if you don’t.

    She doesn’t love you, it’s not your kid…. and i’m just gonna flat out say it this way: If you stay with her, you’re a fucking moron.

  • she’s not into the relationship, why should you be?

  • i feel like that is one of the most childish questions ever asked. especially by a 25 year old. ditch the bitch.

  • @antisoccermom - Looks like Karma has already bit her on the ass. She’s pregnant and soon will be alone.

  • @buddly47 - Huh?

  • @antisoccermom - You commented-

    “Karma is beautiful, it will always get the bitch in the end.” I just said, it looks like it already has.

  • well said

  • What the hell, why would a guy still be calling a girl like that his girlfriend?
    She’s pregnant with another guy. Sorry but your chapter in her life is OVER! Kick her ass out and move on.

  • Yea, don’t stoop to her level.  For what?  She’s already knocked up, and that kid aint yours.  Be glad for that!

  • good. concise and the best way. 

  • great job snippie

  • No.  It’s over.  The end.  If you want to work it out then work it out. BUT, the fact that you’re wanting revenge tells me you should walk away.  Womens hormones are out of whack when they’re pregnant…you could cause serious things to happen by upsetting her to that extreme.  Move on.

  • Why would he even still be with her?… 

  • Or, you know, actually talking to the girl would be nice… maybe see if she wants an abortion or something, and if she’s super sorry for what she did…

  • no, the appropriate response here is to break up with her, and then have sex with her best friend.

  • Having a child with someone else does not prove that she is truly committed to the relationship with you. 

  • @nimbusthedragon - you dont always have to like my answers. thats why everyone gives their opinions. so the person can get everyones point of view.

  • @DearSnippie - Fair enough.

  • I’m usually a fan of “don’t get mad get even” but i think in this case, get mad. Sleeping with someone else isn’t going to resolve anything. Dump her.

  • aww poor thing. But if you love her as much you will accept her for her. And forgiveness is the key.

  • I agree.  What a skank.

  • Obviously you care about her and love her a great deal or else you would be asking if you should break up with her.

    Cheating is not going to fix the hurt she put you through and it will only cause more hurt in your relationship.  The two of you will have to work on trusting each other again if you plan to stay together, and that is not going to be an easy thing to do.

    Without knowing the two of you, or more about the situation, there really isn’t much advice that can be given.

  • How does she know its the other guys? 

  • fuck her! not in literal sense but ya know what i mean,even if you love her, she needs to realise what she has done and what she will be without you to care for her.
    really FUCK HER!!

  • drop her ass like a bad habit… hmph

    D

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  • If you are that upset maybe leaving is the best option. I think when you reach a point that someone in your life is dragging you down to new moral lows it’s time to put some distance between you for your own well being. Normally forgiveness is the way to go for me, but not everyone can and not everyone deserves it.

  • i love how everyone just says “yeah dump her ass” now granted i’m not saying that the situation doesn’t suck but if you’re asking if you should cheat on her to “get her back,” then i’m guessing that you obviously love & care about her. she made a mistake, but guess what? she has to deal with it for the rest of her life. is she not that important to you for you to throw away a relationship & not try to stay and work it out?  & how do you know that the child is his? did you have a seperation for a while & she had relations with someone else … there’s a lot of things that you’re leaving out about this that i think you need to think about before you really just end it

  • It takes two morons to tango. One to cheat, and another to suggest cheating back. 

  • DO THE SAME TO HER? IS HE FUCKEN KIDDING????  the damage is done, the relationship is not healthy..its over..end it…FINITO!

  • I agree with the original answer.  “Cheating back” would only cause more grief in the end.

  • It seems like he wants to revenge… to his girl..and it’s really immature.. !! and i am pretty sure that.. he is actually not so in love with the girlll .. !!  he has to remember that love is not about revenge…!

  • Snippie said it perfectly, short and to the point: you’ve gotta be kidding me if you’re really gonna stay with this girl!

  • “Why are you still with her?”

    ^^^This

    In my opinion, there is no need for an in depth “Hmm how do I feel about this” or “let’s go work this out with a therapist” sort of response.

    She obviously does not share the same type of “love” you have for her. The whole “people make mistakes” case is such a cop out in a situation like this. If I love a girl, actually love her, I won’t cheat on her. Why? Because that is a horrible, absolutely terrible thing to do to someone.

    And if she’s pregnant I’m assuming she wasn’t using protection? Who knows what the other guy could be carrying…

    Drop her. Don’t feel like shes the only girl out there.

  • ok now for someone who has been cheated on and stayed with that person…bad idea because it just happened again….you shouldn’t put up with someone who cheated on you….like especailly that got pregnant yeah i’d leave her :(

  • lmao, Good reaction Snippie xD

    Seriously. She cheated, you should leave her.  Sinking to her level won’t teach her anything.

    If you were a good boyfriend, and she spends the rest of her life wishing she had it so good again, then she’ll really have been punnished.

    More-over… the very fact you’re considering getting revenge like that leads me to think you’re going to have some hostility twords this girl for a very long time… … and thats not a good environment for a kid.  Even if the kid isn’t yours… I hope you’ll agree the child is innocent in the situation…

    So leave that cheating, no-good, waste of human flesh, Wish her the best for the sake of her child, and move on with your life. 

  • Wow.  I’m amazed this guy is even asking this question.  Let the other guy have her sorry ass and move on!

  • Why are you even back with her to begin with?  The best revenge is to leave her and act like you don’t care.  That will hurt just as much.  And if you choose to be with her, you will probably end up raising someone else’ child and the father of the child will always be in your gf’s life regardless if they are together or not.

  • cheaters suck -_-

  • leave her!!

  • I’d say leave her! (:Edited:) Yeah… once is enough. But… then again how long was this man with this woman? Any children involved (other than this one)? Kids always get hit the hardest…

  • Run. Fast. And DON’T look back.

    You’ll find someone better who won’t cheat on you. 

  • I can totally sympathize. I’ve been the one cheated on before and it sucks. I understand the desire to get back at her by cheating on her, but I would have to advise against it. Clearly you still have feelings for this girl, whatever those may be. Your hurt and you feel betrayed, but you probably still love this girl, which is causing a conflict. You want to hurt her, and you think the only way to do that is to cheat on her.

    That being said, I beg you not to cheat on her for a number of reasons. The first is its not going to help you get over what she has done. All it is going to do is create even more distrust in your relationship if you decide to stay. Second, it could be harmful to the baby, the innocent in this situation. If she is under too much stress she could miscarry, and trust me, you don’t want that on your conscious. It will tear you apart, especially if you still have feelings for her. Third and final reason is you deserve better than that. What she did is incredibly wrong, but if you cheat on her, you are just as responsible as she is. All it will do is complicate and already complicated situation.

    If I were you, I would at least take a break from the relationship. She needs to focus on herself and the baby, and she may not be able to do that with you in the picture. And you need time to evaluate whether or not you can truly trust her again. And I do mean truly trust her. You need to decide whether you can 100% move on in the relationship and not hold this against her. If you find that you are questioning every move she makes, calling her at every hour of the day to find out what she’s up to, going through her phone to see who she’s called, etc, then you haven’t moved on and you need to get out of there and FAST.

    I know that is harsh, and its definitely not going to happen over night, but all that is going to happen if you engage in those behaviors is she is going to resent you and she will find a way to cheat on you again. This is why you need to take some time apart from one another. If you find that you can’t move on and get past this, then you need to tell her and move on. If you can, more power to you. I wasn’t strong enough, but that isn’t to say that you aren’t. Just look inside yourself and ask yourself two questions:

    1. Is she worth it?

    2. Can I get past what she has done and forgive her?

    If you can HONESTLY answer yes to both those questions then I would say you have a shot. But the key is be honest. Don’t say yes just because its the easy way out or your afraid of being alone. Its much easier to be alone than to be stuck in a relationship your not happy in. Oh and don’t forget to factor in the baby’s father. Whether you like it or not, he will probably be in her life and in the baby’s life for a very long time. Hope this helps

  • :/ Break up with her. She doesn’t need to drag you down and financially support her when it’s not your child.

  • man, one of my good friends from h.s. did this to her bf. she now has two kids with that guy she had an affair with and couldn’t be more depressed. and her ex is doing great without her.

  • Agreed with that answer.

  • ouch… that girl has some nerve… well, you are free to choose… if it makes you feel better to have sex with another girl, then go…. or you can just severe your ties with her and be single for a while… well, (I presume) you’re young and there’s a big world out there… go out and have fun first…

    just remember… when you forgive someone who wronged you so quickly even though you’re hurting inside doesn’t feel good…
    Trust me, I know…

  • yes leave that girl.  don’t turn urself into some cheater too just to get back at her. that’s stupid

  • @nothingbeast - Amen to that. It would be fucking moronic to stay with a cheater. Being pregnant by another dude would make you a brain-dead zombie if you stayed with her.  Puh-lease!

  • LOL ! take her to the maury show to get publicly humiliated.
    That’s messed up. Just dump her.

  • Wow…  She cheated…  She’s carrying another man’s child…  And you’re still with her?

    If I did that to my husband, I sure hope he’d leave my sorry ass.

  • Someone above made a good freakin’ point…  If she was YOUR girl, then “cheated” on you, then how do you know the baby isn’t yours?  Were you separated for a while?  Because if so, then I don’t necessarily consider it cheating.

    Snippie, you should find out why he’s so certain the baby isn’t his.  Unless she knows the exact date she conceived, there could be about a 1 week window she could have conceived in.

  • First Of All Regrets Doesn’t Get You Anywhere & It Doesn’t Heal Your Wouns After Wards.Just Leave Her Ass Cause You Could Forgive But You Would Never Forget & There Won’t Be Any Trust Anymore.Let Here Deal With The Mistake Or Regret & Save Your Reputation Cause That What Counts In Life.Their Always Someone Else Would Treat You What You Deserved.

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