April 1, 2009
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Dear Snippie ( I can’t stay hard )
QUESTION:
Male. 28 years old.
I think i’m alergic to condoms!!!
Hey Snippie… I dare you to answer this one with “Talk to her about it”.
I seem to have trouble keeping an erection once I put a condom on. And i’m not really sure why.
I’ve wondered if maybe it’s the latex, or maybe the lube. However, i’m using the same brand that i’ve used for years. “Trojan Enz”.
Now all of a sudden, it seems like as soon as I put one on, I can’t keep it up no matter what I try. Whereas without a condom, I have absolutely NO erectile disfunctions.
It seems like only in the past year that i’ve noticed this. (oddly enough it was the same time frame I noticed I had developed an allergy to shrimp which never existed before either.) My last relationship it wasn’t a big deal because she was on the pill.
However, I don’t want to rely on that because I know not every woman is on the pill.
I don’t have any problems using condoms, so i’m pretty sure it’s not a MENTAL issue.
I’ve thought about trying NON-Lubricated Sheepskin or other non-latex condoms… but I live in the middle of freakin’ nowhere. That kind of thing can be hard to find. (and I still have trust issues with internet)
Any theories as to what’s causing this one?
I actually worry more for the woman’s sake, because i’ve had two partners experience this issue and BOTH of them just will not accept the idea that it’s the condom. It becomes a “You don’t find me attractive” issue to her, and that’s totally not it.ANSWER:
I think what’s happening is that the condom is cutting off your circulation at the base of the penis. I don’t think you’re allergic at all. If you were allergic you would be feeling itchy or get a rash. But this is just not being able to keep yourself hard.
Try these condoms Durex Condoms. Durex has developed ‘easy-on’ condoms, which makes them easier to put on and more comfortable to wear.
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What do you think?
Comments (23)
Ironically, circulation was the first thing that popped into my mind too. The simplest test would be to switch up condom brands and see if there’s a change.
Hmmm. If he’s been using the same condoms the entire time and it’s just now giving him a problem, I’m not sure its the condoms fault. Although it very well may be. I would suggest trying a bigger size. And if all else fails, use female condoms?
No clue on this one
If there is no rash or itching, I don’t see what else could cause it other than circulation. I actually prefer the Durex condoms…but I am not the one that has to wear them.
Yeah, “talk about it” isn’t the first thing I thought of this time.
maybe your nerves are going bad..you’re just getting old.
so the condom de-sensatizes you even more… hmm…
circulation seemed to be the only thing I could think of as well… unles maybe he’s started taking some steroids for the new found alergies and that is somehow conflicting with things o.o I guess the best way is to try other condom sizes and see for yourself?
I never had this problem personally, but I noticed when I switched to using magnums I felt a lot more comfortable… so maybe they’ve been secretly reducing the size of their condoms to improve their customer base for magnum condoms! Kind of like how dress sizes for women have been steadily decreasing.
Ack, no sheepskin condoms! Stick to latex or polyurethane, lambskin/sheepskin may not protect against STDs. I agree, it’s probably just a sizing issue.
Let me ask you (the original poster) this: are you cut? Some circ’ed men have a hard time staying hard because of the lack of stimulation. The foreskin has so many sensitive nerve endings. These are removed when the foreskin is removed, and therefore the penis becomes much less sensitive. I ask this because I’ve studied circumcision for hours upon hours, and know this is one of the catastrophic effects of this barbaric procedure.
I think you should use a larger size condom or “talk to her!” about getting female condoms.
No clue about that. But that is very into sex. I am done talking about sex, sorry.
Could you have a mental issue with condoms themselves since the sensation is never as good as without them?
Lol…moment he said Trojan Enz I instantly thought circulation problem…needs to go up a size…should be good to go….
If he uses the same brand, but can’t stay hard this time, I think either it might be the girl (sorry, but there can’t be any other explanation from his story) or the story is a bit bullcrap. I don’t know. the story seems a bit skitterish to me.
“I think what’s happening is that the condom is cutting off your
circulation at the base of the penis. I don’t think you’re allergic at
all.”—- that was the thought that I had throughout the reading of the post. Give us an update, Snippie, if you get one.
That does not sound like fun
I’m agreeing with you Snippie, like always. If a certain brand isn’t working out, try something else. And if there’s still a problem, a doctor wouldn’t be horrible to see.
To get an idea about the blood flow and what a condom can do, (with a bit of extrapolation on your part) try this link: http://health.howstuffworks.com/viagra1.htm You should also run these symptoms by your doctor, you might be referred to a Urologist.
Good answer.
Hmmm…how about this? A while back, I had the similar problem(loosing my erection gradually, yes, I admit it) and it’s bcuz while I was putting on the condom my “little brother” lost interest bcuz of lack of “activity” from my girlfriend at the time by just waiting there. So maybe a little “talk to her” would help by educating her to keep stimulating you by not leaving her “post” while you’re trying to wristle with the damn foil to get it open…but don’t forget the basic rule–don’t use ur teeth to rip it open or u might tear the condom itself apart
@wallsocketnose - or have the girl learn to -safely- put a condom on with her mouth… that’ll keep up the attention and stimulation!
It’s probably either circulation problems, or the lack of stimulation // break in activities when you’re putting the condom on.
@SparklingFaery - yea, assuming his girlfriend wouldn’t mind doing that and have the skill
But don’t let her wear lipstick while doing that though cuz lipsticks have a substance that can melt condoms…yikes!
This reminds me of that really old show, “Talk sex with Sue” or something. She is probably going to die of old soon. Potential job oppertunity?