Question:

A31/SF

Dear Snipster,

I am an avid reader of your blog… I know some people think the submissions are a little over the top and possibly fake…. Well I have a question I would really like advice on (I think my emotions cloud my judgment) but the situation is a little over the top… so bear with me here as I am really looking for advice because what I am about to ask has a real person behind the question and this situation is real to me… I need good advice. I think you’re the gal for it or some of your readers could give me the answer I maybe don’t want to hear but need to.

Here it goes… I caught my husband looking at porn awhile back and while I don’t mind him looking occasionally, hell we have tons of magazines in the bathroom and videos in our armoire to keep him plenty occupied. Plus, I don’t like it ruling his life. I told him how I felt about it and how it made me feel… especially since we were not as sexually active and I was pregnant. He agreed to stop. I have also known him to lie in the past but he had seemed to stop one we actually started dating with the exception of the time when we were married that I found he had a secret email account. Nothing in it was suspicious though. Anyway, as far as I knew, I had all his passwords to all his accounts and access to anything any time I wanted it…. Well I never looked cause I trusted him… until the other day we got in a fight and he was being overly edgy… so I got into his email account… everything looked normal… but I got a wild hair to check his sent mail Nothing appeared suspicious… but I accidentally clicked on an email he had sent himself to his work email…. Bada bing…. A secret email account arose. Now, in his work email, there is nothing… but when I got to this NEW email account I see web links to porn sites, strange email addresses… ex girlfriend/fiancé name, number, and web address to her blog, responses to craiglist personal ads with no mention of having a wife, child, or asking for pictures….. Emails from woman about meeting up, moving etc…. but to top it of, naked pictures of me that I had absolutely NO knowledge of (I don’t and have never allowed it for the obvious reasons I don’t want them on the net). I was livid… was destined to leave him…. But he begged and pleaded for me to stay. He said he was a porn addict, that he was just on Craigslist to get naked pics of girls… he doesn’t supposedly doesn’t like the porn star fakeness and likes real unaltered woman (amateurs..) and that he started taking pictures of me because he knew what he was doing was wrong so he was trying to fix it by just looking at me. He said he viewed it mostly at work… of which he has strange hours there…. ANYWAY, I know that most of that is manipulated bull but he suggested a polygraph test to prove he never went outside the marriage. He also went straight to a counselor two days after it happened and is not going into a AA type organization for his alleged addiction. My question is…. Should I go along/make him take the polygraph test before I decide to leave? If he passes I am willing to work on the marriage to see if it can be salvaged but only because it appears he really does care about us. BUT…. Being as emotional about it all…. Is it just already obvious that I need to not feed into the bull…. Or am I making a huge deal out of nothing? The lying and unauthorized picture taking is what is heating me up the most.

Sincerely,

The Lie Detector

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Question: 20/M
Hey Snippie,
My particular situation is that I’m in my early 20s and still a virgin. Its not that I couldn’t get a partner or were restricted to. I just grew up with the notion that one should save oneself for the person that they love. But I haven’t found that person yet and I’ve never really dated, so finding a girlfriend isn’t all to easy for me. I know its not all too bad still being a virgin because I’m still fairly young, but I know if I hold it off for too long it could be difficult to go through with when it happens and it would be awkward because I’m afraid I woudn’t be good. So my question is, how can I prepare myself to be more ready for it and how should I go about it when I do have sex for the first time? Also how can I make the best of it when it does happen?

Answer:
I’m not sure you can “prepare” yourself. Just make sure it’s the right person so your feel comfortable. I think when you love someone you’re having sex with everything will fall into place the way it’s suppose to. Don’t worry about it. I know it’s a scary thing, the first time, but you’ll know what to do when it comes time.

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Question:

Okay so my best friend and I like the same guy and he likes me better, but (not to be conceded) i already beat her at a lot of things and I don’t know when it is going to be the last straw. For example, I’m better than her at cheerleading and we recently started a new sport (competitive swimming) and I am better at that again. I wish there was something she was better at so I don’t feel so bad! Also I’m better with guys. It’s not her fault but she’s shy and I’m VERY outgoing. I say what’s on my mind. I just would rather guys ask me out. I will flirt uncontrollably to get to that point though . Anyway, now we like the same guy, I’ve liked him longer, and I don’t know what to do.
I told her Sunday (its tuesday) that I love to flirt with him but its harmless and I wouldn’t want to date him, and this is because I haven’t seen him in a while and forgot how amazing he is. Here’s the thing: I saw him yesterday (monday) and I remembered why I liked him. He is magical and enchanting and halarious and obnoxious and crazy and gentle and caring and passionate and easy going and simple all at the same time. We are really the perfect match. We talk about liking each other and if we started dating it would be seamlesss and easy, with the exception of my best friend. I just don’t know if this would be that final straw I was talking about. Sometimes she can be very touchy, and although I truely would not mind if she and this boy date (I wouldn’t because I love both of them and would be happy for them), I just have this feeling she won’t feel the same way. This wraps up into sex because I can totally see myself losing it to him. He is someone I want to remember for the rest of my life, so it wouldn’t matter to me (obviously the sex would matter. i just mean if things didn’t work out it would be okay.). Obviously he isn’t getting any right off the bat, but I almost promised him that six months from now he has a shot. (I’m on meds that say I can’t get prego or I’ll have a deformed baby and its six months til its out of my system. Not that I’ll get prego but I signed an abstinence waiver and we were talking about it so that’s why I said six months. She definitly wouldn’t have sex with him, and he already told me he isn’t a virgin anymore. (I teased him about this for a while…love him!) Anyway, what do you think I should do about all of this?

My Age-15
her age 14 (except she’ll be 15in 2 months…)
his age-15? (i know. its horrible that i don’t know how old he is! in fact. he might be a little younger than me… don’t care)

Ps: obviously i’m a girl!

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Question:
Age 22
Female
 
I’m on birth control and my boyfriend and I both tested clean, so we don’t use condoms.  It feels amazing to be completely bare and feel his soft, warm body against mine, but whenever we have sex it burns within minutes afterward.  Regardless whether or not he comes inside, it burns sometimes on the inside but most of the time on the outside.
 
I don’t have a urinary tract infection and my blood test came back negative for any STDs, so what else could it be?  My sister suggested I might be allergic to him or that it could mess with my pH balance down there.  Any ideas?  Should I see a gynecologist?

Answer:
Yes, I guess you could be allergic. It is possible. It is definitely messing with your ph balance. I suggest going to see your Gyno because I am not a doctor and cannot diagnose you. Anytime something is wrong with your vagina you should see a doctor. It’s not something to just ignore. But until you see the doctor remember to pee after sex. Also, make sure you sit on the toilet for a little bit after peeing and squeeze his sperm out of you. You can do this by pushing down with your stomach muscles. Get some wet wipes and use those to clean up.

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Question:

Answer:
I dont think there is a certain age. I think it’s something you have to find inside yourself. Do you feel ready? It’s a lot of responsibility having sex. It’s not just the act, it’s everything that goes with that. Emotion, pain, hurt, love, std’s, pregnancy, protection, AIDS, abortion, adoption, insecurity, fluids, smells, infections, feelings and more!!
Think about all of this and make the choice to be educated before jumping into something. Make sure you use all kinds of protections if you choose to go ahead with it. But remember. Virginity is something you’ll never get back. It only takes one time.

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Question: 17/F
Hello! I was hoping you could help me out on this…

Answer:
Well sweety, If you really feel that you’re ready you can go to planned parenthood. They have experience with educating young girls on safe sex. They will still help you if you can’t pay them. So please find the one closest to you. They won’t call your parents so don’t worry about them finding out. If you want to get some protection and your mother won’t help you you’re going to have to take care of this yourself.

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