November 24, 2008
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Dear Snippie #19 (Spicing up your sex life)
Question:
When is it too soon to start spicing up your sex life? Hubby and I have been married for over two years, and dated for three years before that– having sex the whole time, we jumped right on it from the start basically– he was too hot to wait for.
Answer:
You can start whenever you want!! But I do think it’s best when you are comfortable with yourself and the person you are with. Because then you won’t feel embarrassed or hold back. I think if you’ve been married for 2 years and you’re still madly in love than you can start as soon as you want to. Go to a local sex shop together and pick out some things. It’s fun! If you’re too shy to go to a store then shop online together. Experimentation and communication are the best things you can have in your sex life.———–
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Comments (23)
I feel that maybe, just maybe, some may have a misunderstanding of “spicing” up their sex lives. Wanting to explore new things doesn’t necessarily mean you’re spicing things up. Sexuality is a beautiful thing and when two people are in love and they trust each other completely, I’ve noticed things happen naturally. However, when there are issues outside of the bedroom, then you start to feel “bored”.
It has happened that sometimes even when you’re madly in love you can start to feel things slow down a bit. Maybe only certain positions are being used. I don’t think this is a problem. You’re comfortable and if both parties are still excited and are having a good time, then you’re good.
I guess to make a long story short. There is NO time that is set. Do what ever makes you and your partner happy.
Local sex shop….in the country that is the shed where they inseminate the heifers.
But seriously ,it is good to keep your sex life from becoming the “same old same old” .
I say now is the perfect time to “spice it up”. LOL
Time is now. Not sure what the person meant by spicing it up. I think some people consider inviting others into their bedroom as spicing it up. That’s not spicing it up. That’s being greedy. Hubs and I are not afraid of going to stores. We usually save that for special occasions, birthdays, anniversaries… It’s interesting to see what he’s into and if the communication/trust is there, the sky is the limit!
I think the best way to spice things up is to try and deepen the intimacy they have and take it to a whole new level.Make sure to remember that intimacy is a lifestyle and not a sex act.Maybe introduce a toy from the “toy store” but it all must come from them,because after awhile even the toys get boring.If you can get to the point where you both make each other feel like they are the most special person on the planet and what you share is exclusive to just the two of you and it is magic,I think that the last problem you will have to worry about is spice
If you say “spice it up” to an Irishwoman you can expect some curry on your dinner.
@OwenHiggins - lol
It’s never too late. Get some hot lingerie. It’s a start. =) Or if you already have some, buy some more. You can never be too sexy for your husband. =)
@DANKNIGHT - I agree.
Yes but if you are going to the local sex shop then be careful. Sex shops are dangerous places. I was walking down an aisle once and I almost got my eye poked out by a dildo on display. Why the hell would they put the dildo up in the air like that? To make matters worse when I went to tell the manager how dangerous it was, he couldn’t stop laughing cause I said “I almost got poked in the eye by that dildo over there.” I didn’t find it that funny.
@vanedave - LMAO
@vanedave - u should run into the dildo and get poked, and then sue! j/k
@wallsocketnose - I thought about it. But then again it is a dildo. I don’t know if I am risking putting that thing in my eye?
@vanedave - true! u’d never know where that has been into, LOL!
@wallsocketnose - @vanedave - ewwww
I think that depends on what you mean on spicing things up.
It’s always good to change up the routine a lil bit. Nothing wrong with a little variety in the bedroom… or kitchen… or back porch… or pool… etc, etc
Try new things, make love at different times (not always at night before bedtime), go somewhere special and have sex … don’t wait to “spice” it up!! DO IT NOW!!
sexy party time!!!!!
Restraints. Cuffs. Blindfolds. Chocolate sauce.
I have a question. My ex-fiance left me after I got really sick, he said that the reason was because he couldn’t it, but where he forgot to be totally honest is that I helped push him away. I’m mad at him but I feel a little responsible and guilty. I won’t have sex until I’m married and wanted to. And a part of me was comfortable doing it with him, it’s just being that close scares me. I guess I was just afriad that, att that moment I would’ve been completely vulnerable. Cancer has ripped me of that desire to be loved in that way. I feel bad cuz I trusted him, I just didn’t trust myself. Was I wrong? Should I have just had sex with him? Maybe he’d be here and maybe he wouldn’t, I just wonder…………Well be blessed. Later……………
I agree, it is always the perfect time. No one wants their sex life to go bad!!
Those sex shops are definitely fun!
Snippie’s method probably works best on a woman, but men like to be surprised by their lady’s kinkiness.
Next time you are on top of him, tell him to put his hands underneath him and to not touch you. Blindfold him and ride him.
If he tries to touch you, stop him by stopping the sex. Don’t tell him you wanna try blah or blah. Just do it.