November 17, 2008
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Dear Snippie #12 (Gag reflex) *UPDATE*
Question:
One problem I have when it comes to oral sex is being able to deep throat. My boyfriend loves to get head and many times I have tried to deep throat but that gag reflex gets me every time. So, my question is this, how do you deep throat a guys p*nis without gagging every time?Answer:
Well you really don’t have to put the whole p*nis in your mouth. Try wrapping one hand around the base of the p*nis. Then use your mouth to cover just over the tip. While you are moving up and down your hand and mouth are used at the same time. So basically your mouth is just sucking on the top part and the hand is jerking off the bottom part. This way you don’t have to gag and he still gets the full efect.*UPDATE*
Apparently guys aren’t liking this answer and don’t feel it’s correct. So please guys I’m asking you, tell us ladies what we can do so we don’t gag? Any other pointers would be greatly appreciated as well.
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Comments (51)
I agree with your advice Snippie!!!
ohhh myyy goosh you weren’t playing when you said you were bringing out the big guns….oooohhhh snap. well uh yeah …so how bout them cowboys….
@CiaoBella810 - i told you!
There is also stuff you can buy at sex shops that is a gel that you put on the back of your throat that numbs it; it works pretty good I think.
@StewieIsMyHero - lol
**blushing**
pfft…that’s too funny lol!
Bad advice, from the guy’s point of view! The last thing he wants when his girl is going down on him is her hand in the way. Take what you can comfortably accomodate, and practice does make perfect, girls! Hands are for handjobs, not oral sex-key word there is-oral.
not exactly the same effect.
@buddly47 - @striemmy - so how does she not gag then? give us an answer that she can use?
@buddly47 - I’ve never had any complaints…shrug. I think it’s on a guy to guy basis. Some guys are okay with the hand helper, and some aren’t.
What’s wrong with gagging? We like gagging!
@SnippiesBlog - I thought I did? Take what you can comfortably accomodate, and practice does make perfect.
And vanedave has a valid point, too!
I guess, there’s always practice with a banana. Get a bunch so you can see which lengths work best for you.
@vanedave - oh shut up Dave. Why dont you try gagging on one!
@SnippiesBlog - I’m just saying. Does it hurt to gag?
some guys don’t mind the hand. some might prefer a moist hand. also maybe going towards the cheek sometimes helps to get more in.
@buddly47 - she was saying it basically makes her wanna puke so how does practice help that?
Personally for me, I won’t do it unless I’ve been dating the guy for REALLY LONG time because of my gag reflex. And I only do it if he really wants me to. I explain to him why though. Have you explained to your bf what happens when you do? Some guys are more understanding if they know what is going on. I’ve tried every trick in the book, and I still gag. And yes it does hurt to gag, at least for me, for those of you who asked. I’m sorry but I don’t have anything to add to this one…
ok ok…so when i asked a friend about this…and she gave me some interesting tips.
Disclaimer: you may not look at me differently after you read this!
First what position are you in when you are attempting this feat? The whole facing the one eyed snake thing may not work…have you tried laying on your back and having you head hang off the bed slightly…it will lengthening you throat area…
also…instead of enclosing your mouth around the ahem you know, try keeping your mouth open end sticking your tongue out over your bottom teeth…then guide him into your mouth slowly…breath and relax. Dont forget to breath. then close your mouth.
But the key is to keep breathing and relax your throat…like you are swallowing something. in a way you are…
@CiaoBella810 - WHOA!!! GO TERRI!
Take as much in as you can. I don’t mind the hand there, but it is better if you can deep throat. Also using 1 hand on the balls is helpful.
Get creative, talk with your guy to see what he likes.
@CiaoBella810 - Impressive.
I usually just do the hand thing but make sure that it stays incredibly lubricated. Go down as far as you can with your mouth while still holding onto the base of his penis with your hand, then come all the way up (mouth off of penis) sliding your hand over the top. Get a good rhythm going and keep things wet…I don’t think he’ll mind at all!
@SnippiesBlog - Didn’t really see anything about “it makes her want to puke”. She said she gags when she tries to deep throat. In my experience most girls are OK, with no gagging problems as long as they are in complete control of the situation. Most girls do gag when their partner, in the heat of passion, attempts to force them down further by pushing or pulling on their head. That always causes an instant reflex action. If he’s trying to “help her” deep throat by doing that, tie or cuff his hands behind his back, or at least have him set on them!LOL
But, there are girls that just can’t do it, and it’s usually not a problem for the guy. As I said earlier, just take what you can comfortably handle, and try to go a little further every now and then. I’m sure her partner enjoys the experience whether she actually deep throats or not.
But above all else, relax and enjoy yourself, it’s all good!
The hand thing is okay sometimes. But it is not the same as deep throating. Some guys are too thick or too long for deep throating.
For the other guys, just practice with your tongue out, breathing through your nose only, and straighten your throat out completely.
You do not have to lay on the bed with your head hanging off the side to straighten it out. That is just useful for submissive skull fucking – GO CIAO BELLA!!
You can straighten your throat when kneeling by straightening your back, lunging your chin up and forward, and bending forward to take him in your throat nice and straight. Grab his ass for support and to guide him in your throat.
@buddly47 - when a girl gags it makes her want to throw up. thats what that reflex feels like. not a very nice feeling.
@SnippiesBlog - Of course it’s not. She may have better luck in the 69 position with him on the bottom. The curvature of the penis fits much more comfortably to the natural formation of the throat that way.
Experiment a little.
Women shouldn’t be expected to be naturals the first time, either. I think when they gag the first time, it becomes this “I can’t do it” mentality.
It really is all about practice and experimentation. Because the sensation of deep throat vs. faux deep throat is very different.
And yes, if a guys forces it, the gag is going to be more dominant. There are teeth involved; be sensible here.
@iwfuutaudls - LMBO
@PhoenixMalFet - good points!
I find it easier when you’re kneeling on your knees while he’s standing or at least sitting so that you aren’t hunched over.
Okay, I have to comment. Speaking as a guy, I want to say that none of the comments have pointed out just how unnatural this process is. Why should women be made to gag (or learn not to gag) just to please men? Do men have to learn to put up with major discomfort, like gagging, just to please women? Just saying. Cause it’s sounding like somebody needs to. If not a woman, heck, I’ll do it. My 2 cents.
I think everyone else has pretty much covered this….and I would have suggested the whole hand thing as well….but that is just because that’s what I do because I have a VERY sensitive gag reflex.
@mcdalemin - Guys go down on girls too. While there isn’t the problem of choking or gagging, you do have a host of other issues.
I think it’s pretty fair all around, so long as no one is a selfish brat about it.
@buddly47 - Exactly. We can tell when you move even the slightest bit and then your friend isn’t going to get the attention you want for him. NEVER FORCE HER HEAD or she’s going to hate doing it and slap your hands away. (no one likes to be skull-*ahem*). Seriously though, I used to have an awful gag reflex and for no particular reason(Swear to this) When I’d eat like ice cream or soup(something with a spoon) I’d see how far i could go down my throat with it and now I have a pretty good gag reflex for deep-throating.(unless of course, he pushes my head or moves his body) It’s a defense mechanism to gag when he moves which just makes it harder for us to practice and give you what you want. >;]
Use your tongue to your advantage. Lick his balls too. Guys fucking love that.. .and the perineum, or whatever the fuck that thing is called, as long as it doesn’t gross you out.There’s this hand thing that I’m really good at but hard to explain… it’s kind of like twisting your hand around his penis. Try it and experiment. Trust me, it’s better than head for them, for some reason. Also, I think this is important- try to do everything naturally and comfortably. Don’t be stiff about going up and down with a boring a repetitive rhythm and doing nothing else. Add some flavor to it, so to speak. Practice makes perfect.Just don’t be a slut.
Dare I say, practice more? (: I’ve never had a problem with it, so I’m not sure how one would go about fixing it.
ok… ummmm yeah this is weird i just click on a link and a post about oral sex comes up…
what’s wrong with gagging again? some girls actually get off on gagging but that point aside, relax.. a lot of it ahs to do with relaxation and of course with the willingness to practice until she feels comfortable doing it. yeah.. unless a girl learns to give a phenomenal handjob it’s really just not worth it having hands there.
@StewieIsMyHero - if they had complaints would you have kept on giving them oral sex?
You have practice and work on it. You choke because you try and ram the whole thing in your mouth.
Practice and practice.
Deep is not made for everyone.
And its better if the penis isn’t bigger than a 6.
I believe.
Xo
interesting…
@iwfuutaudls - u sound like u know how to deep throat very well yourself.
To be honest I occassionally gag brushing my teeth so i really don’t know how anyone can do deep throat but I like it when it happens. If any guy isn’t satisfied with the technique you described he is being immature and selfish if he insists that his partner does something that makes her uncomfortable. For my part I’m just glad that clits are managably small
lol, i don’t think any guy can really answer how to not … gag unless they can do it themselves! HAHAHA
@mashimaroboi - OMG Thats soooo true!
Hahaha. Wow. Um… In essence if the girl can accomplish this technique without having to do the deep throat thing, then kudos to her, right?
Avoid gag reflex: This reminds me of the movie Beerfest. Great Gam Gam says “relax zee muscles of zee s’roat” (throat). And just a matter of getting used to. When you take it in, don’t fight it. Try to inhale even as it goes in.
There’s a certain angle to take it in too, depending on the bend of the guy. You want it to try to match the natural bend obviously between the mouth towards the throat.
Also, once it’s in a certain depth, just sit it in there and think of it as a really big noodle you can’t swallow. (I’m not really sure the best way to explain this, but doing my best.) There’s a certain point where you don’t feel the gag (but also getting used to). You do not need to move it in and out once you hit this point (doing so can cause the gag reflex if you’re not used to it), instead allow your throat muscles to go through the motion of swallowing because it would then be “working” the head of the thing.
But bottom line, once you feel the gag reflex, ABORT!
this is not good enough for me. lol
i want to learn to deep throat without my hand in the way. i like the more dominating way so i prefer for his hadn to be pushing at the back of my head and my hand can’t be in the way. im sure the woman can acheieve the deep throat with practice he just needs to understand she will gag, tell him to stick a banana down his throat see if he doesn’t gag.
i dont like the idea of gagging either but its only natural
Definitely need more tips on tis one!
what i would like to know is… does this girl’s boyfriend want her to deep throat? to me, it just sounds like he wants some head.
if she wants to deep throat anyway, like many have said before, practice makes perfect i guess.
but she should know that not all guys want deep throating. some prefer to have more aspects of the woman combined [like people mentioned, hands, mouth, tongue... and it doesn't hurt to look up at him sometimes too. *fierce* eyes, girls! take tyra's advice! LOL!]
My b/f is @ 8 inches, and well if the standard human mouth is only suppose to hold 4 inches, then hehehe i guess i am doing good right?? yes, I take him fully in my mouth, and yes, if he tries to push me, before I am ready, I will gag… every time I tell him to quit if he dont then i quit, and he chills, he just likes it cuz it feels good to him.. All the licking, sucking, and you can take the sucking just like you are sucking on a straw, I know my man for a fact likes that. The down side to the whole picture we are in LDR and when he does get it, it is few and far between, but man, we are both ready, and yes it does depend on what position he is in, infact we are in.
If he is sitting up, forget it, but if he is laying back or laying down for that matter, hell even the 69 postion works, it gives him access to what he wants and all points inbetween, and gives me time to play and give him all the needed attention, and if I have on more than one occasion gotten him to cum, and yes I have swallowed. Except when he does cum, he cums a lot, and I wind up spitting a bunch out cuz I cant swollow anymore feels kinda stuck.
The point being of this is get comfortable, and yes it takes practice, and patience for it to all work out in the end.
I find if the woman concentrates on the tip it’s more pleasurable than when she tries to deep throat it.
Yes the use of the hand does increase the pleasure too.
The best is if she licks the underside of the tip or the very tip where the opening is.
I feel that that’s more pleasurable than seeing the woman choking and gagging because she thinks I want her to deep throat.
The Deep Throat thing is a shallow minded man’s idea to prove to himself that he has a big one because it makes the woman gag.
I don’t have that problem. I don’t have ego problems.