November 15, 2008
-
Dear Snippie #9 (Not able to have the big “O”)
Question:
Isn’t it true that many women do not have orgasms and that is normal?Answer:
Yes this is true. Sad, but true. This can also be true for men as well. Even though it’s more common with women. I’ve read that masturbation helps with this problem. Also it takes lots of practice. I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was 26 but had been sexually active since I was 14.The best way for a woman who has difficulties with orgasm is to stimulate the clitoris. Kegel exercises can also increase sexual feeling and orgasmic intensity. If you are someone who has this problem please talk to your doctor and read up on it. It can be fixed. You deserve the right to enjoy sex like the rest of us!
————-
Your turn to answer Xanga!
Don’t forget to keep the sex questions coming. Message them to me and find out what everyone thinks without them knowing its you!
Comments (38)
ditto.
I find that foreplay helps reaching the “big O”.
I’m one of those rare guys who couldn’t cum – or at least so I thought.
It’s like snippie says, it takes some education, practice, and lots of foreplay and you’ll get there.
Nice response. Another issue that clouds this question is that some women think they have had orgasms when they have never really experienced one.
timestamptimestamptimestamp. why haven’t you timestamped yet? gahhhhhh ….
LOL, that whole thing STILL makes me laugh.
@simply_steffy - agreed. great sex does come from foreplay … heh.
@RushmoreJ - Yeah, that is very true. I had been having sex for two years before having my first ReAL orgasm. There’s a huge difference.
Care to elaborate more on how men cannot have the big “O”?
Also, would the big “O” from oral pleasure alone be any degree lesser “O” than from strictly intercourse(which, to me, is harder to achieve for women than as for men).
Keep ‘em cool sex quesstion coming, people!
@wallsocketnose - Some men just can’t. It gets hard, stays hard, performs, but it never gets sensitive enough to cum.
You didn’t have your first orgasm til 26? But you only look like you are 23 or so! (completely a compliment!)
@AlterEgo909 - thanks! I actually 32
@RushmoreJ - but you’ve got a cure for that! right, chief? jk
@BarelyJen - lol ok I’ll timestamp it. Just for you!
@SnippiesBlog -
*cries* i’m never gonna have one LMAO
@wallsocketnose - You are absolutely right about it being harder to achieve with normal intercourse. I feel like I spend half my time reminding people “it’s all about the clitoris, stupid!”
Also, anyone who says an “O” from oral is lesser obviously hasn’t had a good partner!
@iwfuutaudls - you lie!!! isn’t that a super doober plus though? well, for the partner, I mean…lol!
@sammiko88 - I guess I’m thinking in more technical terms. Of course, other situational orgasms are nice for the reason you listed (embraced, intimate, etc.) but I don’t think it’s any more physically pleasurable than a toe-curling, partner-dodging, ticklish oral “O.” Maybe it’s an apples and oranges comparison.
They have a g-shot you can get. They inject you with botox (I think) and it’s supposed to increase the sensation in your g spot.
@abbylyne - If the dude needs reminding then, uh hmmm, he’s got issues
Well, what if the “O” from oral is sooo intense that the lady is all crenched and dodging from her partner like it’s super ticklish when done, yet implies coitus “O” is more enjoyable is it bcuz of the intimate feeling from it when you’re able embraced and stuff?
@blazinhott99 - why wouldn’t you? as long as you have a clitoris you would, right?
U KNOW HONESTLY I REALLY WANT T OKNOW HOW TO GIVE MY PARTNER THE BEST PLEASHUR SHE HAS EVER HAD HOW DO I DO THAT CAN U HELP ME BEEING U R A GIRL HELP!!!! LOL
@SnippiesBlog - You go girl!
Thank you for answering the questions that have been on everyone’s minds.
@sammiko88 - No. Women get sore. And they feel self conscious because they wonder “am I not doing a good job? Is he not attracted to me?”
It makes sex uncomfortable.
@iwfuutaudls - I doooon’t think soooo…I’ve never heard of a guy who couldn’t cum, lol seriously, if that is true, you’d be god-sent to women, lol!
Yeah, on love line last night, dr. drew said some girls dont have them until they are into their 20s. You gotta work at it.
Xo
@wallsocketnose - You’re way right it is hard as hell to hit the “big o” just from intercourse. As far as oral goes I think the orgasm is much better than the actual intercourse. Many find that the clit becomes sensitive to touch after an orgasm which is why it actually retracts after an orgasm.
i don’t know much about this one…seeing as i have never experienced the Big O….(don’t cry for me…im sure i will be fine!)
no one seems to ever help me in my questions y is that but hey its all good i made her happy b4 i just wanted it to b better for her if any one wants to help me and give me pointers im all ears lol
I’ve been sexually active since I was 17, I hit my first and only ‘O’ when I was 18. It was mind shattering. For me, it takes both penetration and clitoral stimulation…
Most of my friends didn’t have their first “O” til their mid twenties. I had my first “O” when I was 20 and I’d been sexually active since I was 17. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot from the men I’ve been with so it appears to take some practice as well.
I had to work on my own for years to achieve orgasm from masturbation, and although sex is incredibly pleasurable and fulfilling for me it’s not the same at all. I don’t think I orgasm during sex, if I did I would know, right; it would feel like it does when I achieve it on my own?
I still need ‘help’ from devices, I haven’t figured out manual stimulation yet.
Practice practice practice — poor me
@wallsocketnose - okay. if you say so; you obviously know best.
@iwfuutaudls - hey, be cool, ok? we’re just having a discussion here
My bad if I sounded harsh or offensive. Peace 
@wallsocketnose - I was thinking more along the lines of ignorant. Peace be with you.
@wallsocketnose - forget trying to be nice bro. it took him THREE days to have balls to gather up a bitter defense. Did anyone else smell BULLSHIT? Cannot CUM…I bet he can’t even hold his wad for a few seconds! ROFL!!!
OMG I thought I was alone…..
@wallsocketnose - @iwfuutaudls - @sammiko88 - now kids, play nice! :)
it’s true that some guys don’t achieve an orgasm every time. if one’s lover doesn’t cum, one- generally- automatically feels that it’s something they did wrong. and of course the lover tends to feel like they did something wrong too. obviously people think that this doesn’t happen as much in guys as in girls, because guys wouldn’t tend to want to say anything about it.
however- it’s way more difficult for a guy to ‘fake it’ than for a girl.
and somewhere in the comments above, i read something about masturbation being helpful… and all i can say is that don’t use TOO much stimulation [for either sex] because then your body is going to expect that every time, and it may become MORE difficult to orgasm. =