November 15, 2008
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Dear Snippie #10 (Cybersex)
Question:
Do you think having cybersex is breaking the premarital sex rule?
Answer:
Actually I don’t. You are physically not having sex. All you are probably doing is talking dirty and touching yourself. To me that would be the same thing as if you were in the same room with someone, doing or saying the same things.
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Comments (34)
Well, its not bad, but the relationship is going no where! Don’t get your hopes up, cuz’ its not real
@dreaminofsunset - i dont think she was asking about relationships. she simply wanted to know if it was breaking the premarital sex rule
@SnippiesBlog - Nope. Its not breaking the rule
It all depends on what you consider sex. Some people think that intercourse is “sex before marriage” but don’t consider other acts to be breaking the rules. Others abstain from everything, including cybersex or phone sex. If you’re bothered by the idea of getting off with someone you’re not married to, regardless of whether or not you touch, then I’d say you’re breaking your own rule.
I think it’s not because sex requires intercourse and all you are doing is talking over the computer with someone.
I dont think it is; but some people’s own rules might consider that being broken. Its just up to what your rules are.
Xo
@abbylyne - I agree with the “If you’re bothered by the idea of getting off with someone you’re not married to, regardless of whether or not you touch, then I’d say you’re breaking your own rule.”
So yes cyber sex is breaking the premarital sex concept. If a person is gonna have a belief like that, they should not be half assed about it. But masturbation is not breaking the rule because it doesnt involve another person, plus its good for you. lol
and no, I dont believe in abstaining from premarital sex. but to each their own
I agree, no different then watching a porno movie, or looking at a dirty magazine -
i think cybersex is just gay all in it self sex is so much better
I ran across this comedian / priest or something…and he said that any forms of sex is sin. Hah! Pretty stupid. Cybersex is just stupid ..
what? lol
excuse my rudeness.
of course it’s not premarital sex !
how cute of her to ask !
@Pyrra - I agree with you too. I don’t mean to laugh at the question (nor the person who asked it) but I believe it doesn’t break the rule.
No it doesn’t break any rules…..just matters where your guilt lies. Obviously if you’re asking the question you feel some level of guilt about it. If that’s the case….don’t do it. It’s all rather pointless anyway.
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@Girl_Without_Pity - Yea, I agree with Pyrra, too…why take cybersex so seriously? I guess it really depends on each individual’s believes. Some are ok with it, while some just couldn’t deal with it & in too deep. Come on, get a grip of reality, people! If you felt guilt-tripped like hell by doing it, or felt offended when the other party is conducting the act whether with or without harmful intent then just walk away. No need to be pouting over something like this, LOL. Bottom line, just do what your heart’s telling you
I think that the whole point of not having premarital sex is to keep your HEART pure. Can you have premarital cyber sex with a pure heart? Probably not.
its not even real…….
I don’t know if I found out my boyfriend was having cybersex I might be a little weirded out by it.
@CanadianConspiracy - oh ya me too. but thats not her question.
Definitely not premarital sex– that’s funny people actually think that. It’s the same thing as reading a dirty book.
Good thoughts!
I don’t think it’s breaking the premarital sex rule, but since I don’t follow that rule, it doesn’t mean much.
Though it would be weird, and cause for some serious discussion if a SO were doing it whilst I was around.
I most certainly do not think it’s premarital sex. Although, if my boyfriend did it… I WOULD consider it cheating.
cybersex is lame.
@colustan91 - yes it is
@CanadianConspiracy - yea considering the fact that if you ‘found out about it’ then you werent the other person involved.
As a rule of life, when in doubt, don’t. If you’re really worried about it then either 1. you’re belief isn’t THAT strong if you’re trying to get around and bend the ‘rules’ or 2. you shouldn’t be doing it anyways or 3.it depends on what your definition of sex is and why you’re abstaining.
If it’s because you want to stay ‘pure of heart’ then yes it is sex but if you’re doing it to abstain from penetration then ‘no’.
well then what happons if there both in to the whole cyber sex thing like i knew a couple that were in to that and you know that is what our world is comming to now adays like they dont even like sex they would rather stay in a corner and jack off to a girl in a bed masterbating rather then have sex … witcis a safer way to do it less kids but i mean does any one take sex as a searous thing any more ir is it just a game please leave me some answers and commets on here
I have had relationships come apart because either I or my partner were involved in cybersex with another partner. Whether it is “adultery”, it is certainly “infidelity”, and can wreck a relationship as easily, quickly, and completely as an affair can.
Only if masturbating is pre-marital sex. Or reading erotica! Or… basically, Hells no, it isn’t.
@mordewis - That’s… not actually the question.
@firehotness - punctuation?
@StewieIsMyHero - yea i know my punctuation is not good at all nor is my spelling i know this make fun of me if u wish i just asked a question not really the answer i was looking for lol
well, if you aren’t having sex for personal reasons then it doesn’t count as sex. If you’re trying to be pure, then I think it counts as sex.
no
Cyber Sex is for losers that cant get a real guy/ girl
It’s not breaking the premarital sex rule. It’s only having consensual masturbation with someone else.
No because in a way it’s like masturbation