November 10, 2008
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Dear Snippie #5 *UPDATED* (G Spot)
Question:
All the men I have been with haven’t been able to find my “spot.” Is it because I don’t have one (I think I do) or something else?
Answer:
Well do you know where your g-spot is? Cause if you don’t know how is your man suppose to know? Here’s some info I found for you.
what exactly is the g-spot?
It is the bean-shaped, spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland, which is analogous to the male prostate. The actual area is only about the size of a quarter, but it feels rougher to the touch than the surrounding tissue. Because the G-spot is composed of erectile tissue, it swells up when blood rushes to it — especially if you learn how to master the woman’s G-spot effectively.
It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. The “front” wall is the wall of the vagina on the same side as her belly button.
the best way to find the g-spot.
First of all, the G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is sexually aroused, so don’t stint on your foreplay first. (You knew I would get that in!)
To locate and master the woman’s G-spot, face your partner while she is lying on her back and insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina as far as it will easily go. Then crook it up toward yourself in a “come hither” motion, sliding your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall. (Make sure you have your fingernails clipped short and buffed before you do this — sharp fingernails will definitely spoil the effort.) This rough or slightly ridged area is the “G-spot,” and touching it will often cause a woman to react with surprise or pleasure.
EDIT*
Clitoral orgasms are the greatest! Try using a bullet. Do it by yourself so you feel comfortable. It’s an amazing feeling
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Comments (53)
Aww that would be so hot if a girl were to yell that to me during sex.
“Oh keep going. You’re hitting my bean-shaped, spongy tissue of my paraurethral gland!”
Yeah that’s hot.
I don’t know what to say about this one…
@vanedave - LMBO
i have nothing to contribute on this one
Tell me something I didn’t know.
That should work.
Here is what I have found works best during intercourse.
Have the girl lay face-down on the bed. Place one or two pillows underneath her pelvis (not her tummy) such that her butt is slightly angled upwards but her torso is face-down and flat on the bed. I, errr, the guy, stands with his feet a little more than shoulder width apart and directly above her butt. Without moving his feet, he squats low and gently penetrates her vagina. I cannot stress gently enough in this position, boys!
While inside her, he leans forward and places his elbows as close to the sides of her chest as possible. His hands should be comfortable, relaxed, and resting to the sides of her head (or higher if she is short, he has long arms, etc..).
Begin thrusting slow but deep, using only your pelvis. Do not sway or move your upper body. Let it rest and relax on your elbows and forearms. Use your abdomen to thrust your pelvis such that your penis is entering her almost vertically. The slight angle in her own pelvis will make it so that the head of your penis is slamming into her g-spot at a ninety degree angle for maximum torque and friction.
Because her legs are probably closed, and because of the perpendicular angle of penetration, you have to start gently and verbally communicate with her as you speed up. Otherwise it will get really sore really fast and she’ll kick you off.
Also, this works great if your girl is an internal orgasm type (statistics say 1 in 3 women are internal orgasm girls).
IF your girl is a clitoral orgasm type (statistically 2 in 3) then this position probably won’t do much for her g-spot but it may still be very pleasurable because of the psychology of trying something new, being intimate (you’re verbally communicating with her remember?) and because of the stretch from her legs being close together and the angle of penetration.
have your boyfriend help you find it……
ummmmm the rest of this comment is rated R; mature content only:
Two primary methods have been used to define and locate the G-spot as a sensitive area in the vagina:
<li>the first is based on self-reported levels of arousal during stimulation;<li>the second based on the idea that stimulation of the G-spot leads to female ejaculation.
In a published case study of one woman, it was reported that stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall made the area grow by fifty percent and that self-reported levels of arousal/orgasm were “deeper” when the G-spot was stimulated. Another study examined eleven women by palpating the entire vagina in a clockwise fashion, and reported a specific response to stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall in four of the women
G-spot proponents are criticized for giving too much credence to anecdotal evidence, and for questionable investigative methods: for instance, the studies which have yielded positive evidence for a precisely located G-spot involve small participant samples.
Scientific examinations of vaginal wall innervation have generally shown that there is no single area with a greater density of nerve endings. A recent study of 110 biopsy specimens drawn from 21 women concluded with the absence of a vaginal locus with greater nerve density.However, sensitivity is not determined by neuron density alone: other factors include the branching patterns of neuron terminals and cross or collateral innervation of neurons.
You know, some people aren’t sure if the G-spot even exists. Some women find pleasure at that point but others never do. I would suggest trying different sexual positions that provide more contact with the clitoris during intercourse. Try the CAT (coital alignment technique) or any other position that leave room for clitoral stimulation (like girl on top).
Nothing more to say there. You got that covered
@iwfuutaudls - wow. Very interesting. Now when I think about having sex and trying to tell my partner what to do…..that will be the most funniest conversation I will ever have.
I might have to say “Oh, may I use your computer before we do this? There’s this guy on Xanga. Remember Xanga? Well, he wrote how to do this craziest sex scene and I would like to try. And I really don’t know how to do it without have you read it.”
Yeah. Thank you for that. But other than that lol..yeah
@LilSweetJew - That’s far from crazy lil’ one. That’s just yet another position for vanilla sex. If you want crazy sex advice, then you’re way over your head talking to me.
@thegreatchristopher@hoodstars - I don’t think the g-spot has to be in the walls of the vagina. It can be behind the skin itself, such as below the bladder. I do not remember the location of the source off the top of my head, but I think some doctor claimed it was a bundle of ribbed tissue highly concentrated with nerve endings beneath the vaginal wall itself.
I think this particular person needs to consider that maybe they can’t orgasm through their gspot…if this is the case then the best thing to do would be to have a clitoral orgasm before sex. By doing this the gspot actually raises a bit internally (almost as if it is a little more spongy–as you mentioned) and even though the internal orgasm will probably not occur, sex definitely feels better.
It is necessary to consider that all vaginas are different too. I know most men will find the greatest success in either being on top, riding high, and going deep…or from being behind the girl with her butt elevated (the pillows aren’t necessary if she arches her back).
Aside from that…you’ve given a wonderful response
@jediwa72 - thanks! and ditto to the clitoral orgasm. Thats the best kind!
I should specify: by arching the back I don’t mean old fashioned McDonalds arch…I mean, dipping their back inward thus leaving their butt in the air. OH–and just because many women seem to think that they’re immobile when in such positions…women can rock back onto the guy and give him a little break and be able to angle things a bit better too while in this position.
Best is to hit the g-spot about a minute from a clitoral orgasm. Everything is hyper-sensitive by then and you’ll have an explosive orgasm.
Ha…the bullet was a perfect edit. Now you know your next question will be, “What is a bullet and can’t I get lead poisoning from that?”
@jediwa72 - hahaha. i had to add that. its my favorite part and i couldnt believe i left it out! silly me. Oh and of course I would be glad to blog about it!!!
The bullet is awesome. I was so sad not to live in NY or Brooklyn because Babeland was giving out free ones to people who came in wearing an “I Voted” sticker!
@jediwa72 - But that’s more for doggy style.
Arching her back like that while the guy is laying ontop of her back, thrusting vertically, can seriously strain her lower back muscles.
I dunno, I am 6’2″ and pretty athletic, I can’t imagine my 230 lb frame being too comfortable on most of you ladies while trying to arch your back to hump your booties upwards onto my shaft.
Oh, and guys like the bullet too
@iwfuutaudls - No, no…him standing or on his knees…not laying on her back.
@jediwa72 - But then he won’t thrust straight into her g-spot.
That’s just a variant of doggy-style.
@iwfuutaudls - where do they like it?
@iwfuutaudls - Okay, considering no two vaginas are alike…maybe not. I assure you if said he does as I say then he will thrust into my g-spot just fine.
@SnippiesBlog - In the anus and some like it on the base of the penis right where it connects to the (what word do I use here..haha) testicles, ball, eh, you pick.
@jediwa72 - oh ok. maybe i’ll surprise him. LOL
@SnippiesBlog - I love strings of them in my ass, held in by a butt plug. And I also love them at the base of my cock, held there by a double barrel cock-ring (one barrel for the testicles, the other for the shaft). But then I also like all sorts of other heinous things. Most guys just like them as teasers to be traced around the flare of their glans, and up and down the sides and base of the shaft.
@jediwa72 - I’m sure he will rub against it. But I am talking about the head of the penis slamming into it at a right angle, for maximum pressure. I like doggy too, and I have full confidence that you know how to get off. I am just saying if she can’t find it because it is not that sensitive, slamming in it head on will help.
@iwfuutaudls - Your talking to a virgin here. Anything is crazy for me. Crazy in a good way though.
@iwfuutaudls - strings of what? we were talking about the bullet. A vibrator.
@SnippiesBlog - Ohhhh …. I was talking about vibrating bullets, similar to vibrating ben wa balls. My bad.
Wait, your vibrator is just one on a wire.
I am thinking of two or three on the same wire.
@iwfuutaudls - oh ya the one im talking about is just one. its tiny and for the clit
Yeah I just wen to babeland and looked it up.
It’s the same thing.
They just put one instead of a few. The wire may not be too sturdy from the looks of it. But then again you don’t need sturdy if you’re just using it externally.
we generally shop at bdsm specialty stores or gay and leather stores.
babeland is a little too pink and mainstream for us.
I’ve found that if you perform cunnilingus properly, simple penetration is all that is needed from that point on, direct stimulation of the G spot is rarely a success unless in concert with clitoral stimulation. Of course if you have a pensil dick nothing will work.
@vanedave - LOL
@Da__Vinci - too true…
I didn’t think it existed for the longest time … but it does!!!!!!!!
I think you copied this directly from askmen.com
@AllthePerfect_Words - yes because i say “Here’s some info I found for you.”
@jediwa72 - what?! all vaginas aren’t the same? i’m crushed.
it looks like everyone covered it all … i’ve got to make it in here earlier! GOOD JOB, as always!
@BarelyJen - Jen, if they were all the same then there would be no need for the floppy vagina blogs! haha
@jediwa72 - you saw that too, eh?
@iwfuutaudls - i just vomited in my mouth a little. you SHOULD be “kicked off” like a dog humping somebody’s leg, and told to go slam into something else. gross, mr. doggy-style!
@iwfuutaudls - way over her head in vomit. jk.
@jediwa72 - perineum. nickname: taint. jeez, i’m getting out of the kiddie pool, now.
@Da__Vinci - ROFLMAO!@iwfuutaudls - you mean, you and your chihuahua?
Snippie, thank you! i have laughed so hard i almost peed.
@BarelyJen - saw what?
@BarelyJen - @lizheartshakespeare - i can’t find it for liz … jess, help?
@BarelyJen - i would like to know what the hell ur talking about too
@artworkjanalee - so glad you enjoyed it! more to come tomorrow…
@artworkjanalee - Her name is Happy and she is a Shitzu.
i used you in a blog, i hope that is ok.
also,
i can’t find my g-spot nor did i enjoy sex all that much, granted i only tried about 3 times.
however, i do find pleasure in clitoral stimulation.
Its impossible to map out where the G spot is, because every girls vagina is different, but its a pretty close descrip. But, why would you post this? Guys who know where it is, earned the right to know, other guys who don’t need not to know because they havent worked for it.
V~